I've been noticing something new lately. I schedule a meeting and everyone confirms it, then about 30 minutes before the meeting several people come up to me in person or by phone to confirm that we are still having the meeting.
Am I that distrustful or unpredictable? Is there a history of you showing up for meetings and them not occurring?
I'm confused by this... but then I got to thinking about it more. I realized that I've had friends or family do it also with gatherings. This behavior has risen in the last few years. What I don't know is if it has anything to do with our constant micro-distractions with technology, or a decrease in respect for each other.
Don't get me wrong, it bother me that people waste my time to verify that I won't be wasting theirs... but what I'm really concerned about here is that people do this to protect themselves against something that must happen to them all the time. This something is hugely disrespectful. It's the act of not following through.
I was raised in a community and culture where you stated what you were going to do, then you did it. If for some reason you couldn't, you had better set expectations in advance as soon as you could. If you didn't, you paid the price by harming that relationship. You didn't deserve to receive mutual agreements from that person in the future after that mistake.
Agile is about this. Standups inspire this. Reviews demand this. Planning and Velocity requires it. WIP limits assume it (I've seen managers bypassing WIP on the sly!). Retrospectives if run properly will inspire it also. Without it, everything starts to fall apart.
So people: say what you'll do, and do what you say. Follow through. Get to DONE! And don't limit this to your work, but include it in your relationships with other people.
Think about how much time we can save not second guessing stuff anymore!