So, time for a personal retrospective.
At the end of a team retrospective I facilitate each month, I handed 3*5 cards out to each member of the tech team and asked them to honestly and brutally tell me at least one good thing and one bad thing about me. They looked at me funny, but after I explained why I needed this they asked for several more cards (funny, ha, ha).
What I got back was insightful. I'll spare you the 34 individual comments and share the most common:
- good: you don't inflict change
- good: you hear our concerns and adapt, you don't force us to do it by the book
- good: you presented the philosophies behind it instead of telling us just to do it
- bad: you talk to fast and cram in too much
- bad: you sometimes try to hard to help people and step on their toes in the process
What's my point?
I'm proud of the fact that these people trust and respect me enough to give me honest feedback. I'm proud of myself for asking for it even if I felt like hiding in the corner as they scribbled on cards. I hope I have the guts to absorb this feedback and improve my coaching skills.
Peer reviews can be an amazing way to improve yourself if you are open to changing.
Do you have the guts to try it?
"No matter the circumstances you can always improve. You can always start improving with yourself. You can always start improving today." - Kent Beck